The Ending of a Friendship

Well, I did what was best for me.

I realized that I was very entangled in Robert's life, relationship, etc. I was frustrated about wht he was doing, and trying to be a good friend to someone who didn't want a good friend. I was wearing myself out.

First, I don't trust Robert. I have to say/write that out loud. He has shown me that he gets off on denigrating people. The way he talked about Toby showed me that he had no regard for his feelings. He called Toby a friend, but what kind of friend is Robert that he talks about Toby the way he does?

Second, Amelia is out to use him. Okay, that's a guess, but she's doing so many of the charmer/abuser routine stuff I have to wonder. The sex has been hot, heavy and kinky. She said she'd wear his collar. (She's into the whole domination-submission thing.) She's said she wants a relationship and is ready to move to Atlanta. All that in two fucking months? Give me a break. She's setting him up.

Third, he and Amelia don't seem to understand the boundaries in a friendship. Amelia tells him what Toby says to his girlfriend, children, ex-wife and her parents. She tells Robert everything they discuss and what she overhears. Robert then tells me. What I get from their actions (besides that their children) is that neight of them have a shred of respect for Toby. They don't understand that what they convey to me is he means nothing to either of them. Robert doesn't see that she's driving a wedge between him and Toby.

Fourth, I knew Robert didn't have any empathy for Nathaniel and that whole situation. What i didn't realize is that he doesn't have any empathy at all. He cannot understand why Toby might be hurt because Amelia is dating Robert. When they were dating she was wearing his collar and they purchased a vehicle together. Those are signs that the relationship had been thought of as permanent at one time.

Fifth, I didn't know that Robert will twist things to justify why he should get his way. He will ignore other people's feeling and sacrifce friendships it if means he gets his way. That doesn't say much for the type of friend he is to people. What kind of friend he is to me. He sees what he wants to see; and knows what he wants to know. He doesn't give a damn what the truth is.

Amelia is using him. She's setting him up and I can see it. She doesn't wnt to drive trucks anymore, but she also doesn't want to get a job anywhere else. Robert will take care of her. She knows this because he told her he was done it in the past. That means he will do it again.

I have talked to people about what he's done this week, and how all the weird behavior seemed to get worse after I went out on a date with someone. He wanted me to talk to Amelia so she could verify that he respected me. I told him that I didn't need her to verify how he felt. The the next day he sent me a picture of her. I was just utterly done. I was trying to maintain a friendship with someone who wasn't being a friend.

Another strange thing is he was going to let me go to Orlando with him. He hadn't wanted me to go because he didn't want his grandchildren to be confused, but now I can stay in the same condo with them. Odd.

So, that's all gone and I feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. I may talk to him sometime next year. I know I don't want to talk to him now.